Revamped Blog Details

Hello to my loyal readers and those visiting the blog. I have recently decided to pull back on writing all about entertainment and start to focus on personal aspects as well. I have a busy career as a pet sitter, this is my 13th year of business and I need something that is easier to write whenever I want to not always set but a show’s time of air or aspects of that show. I will still be writing about the Bachelorette and Bachelor shows as I am a lifetime fan of those shows. During the week I will write about my personal life, faith, career and anything else I feel the want to write about. I hope you will stick around to join me on this new part of my blogging journey.

Lorrie

A Weekend of Joy & Sadness

This weekend marks two events that are important, one is joyous and happy the other is sad as it has been for the last six years.

The joyful event is my birthday, I turn 38 on Saturday, June 17.  I have to work as usually but I am looking forward the cards and birthday wishes from my friends and family.  I plan to make the most of this day. I love a big fuss being made over me on my birthday as it’s my special day. Maybe that’s because I’m an only child.  I was actually born on fathers day and I am not looking forward to next year. In fact, I might even celebrate my birthday on another day.

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This brings me to the sad part of the weekend a day we celebrate our fathers, and I did too up till 2011 when I lost mine. He lived a long life and I can now smile at memories instead of having tears. Sure, I tried to do church and deal with the day but it’s too much for me. I can’t stand all the advertisements celebrating fathers day, seeing all those families at church with their fathers who are still here while mine is gone. So I’m officially skipping the holiday I put myself into work and just treat it as another day. This weekend I plan to be socially offline on Sunday with the

So I’m officially skipping the holiday I put myself into work and just treat it as another day. This weekend I plan to be socially offline on Sunday with the expectation of emails but no facebook for me.  I wish a happy fathers day to all of you who are lucky enough to still have your dads with you, make the most of the time you have. Don’t take it for granted because one year it could be gone and you will become one of the many who are fatherless on this holiday.

Dating Expectations vs Reality


Keeping in the dating series of blogs I just had to share one of my most recent dating disasters with you, my readers who like to hear about my misadventures in dating.

Recently I met an older guy who worked a lot and thought I would give him a chance. I’d only been dating younger guys and that had gotten me nowhere. Unless you count being stood up and left with the bill at a restaurant as going well. We had done our first date walking around a Meijers because that’s the only thing that was open after 9 pm since he worked till 8. We had a nice conversation and we then planned to do breakfast date together after he got back from a weekend away.

Well after texting throughout the weekend I was looking forward to this date, I even dressed up for it. But I woke up a little later than expected, forgot to charge my phone last night so I charged it in the car and I got stuck at a red light waiting for my turn had to wait thru two strings of traffic till finally right before the third one I made my turn ( yes I know that’s wrong but I was already late).

Once I got there I apologized but I guess that wasn’t enough to please this guy because When I went in he was getting back in his car and leaving and it wasn’t till I got back to my car after getting my own breakfast that I saw his message that I was a no-show:  I was only 9 minutes late!!  He had been there 5 minutes early so I was at a disadvantage before I even got there.

My expectation had been that he would be there waiting for me with a smile and say no problem I’ve just been looking at the menu, checking my phone messages etc and you look great. That’s not what I got at all, I got a fleeting look at my date leaving cause he was too darn impatient. All that prep was for nothing I had breakfast alone which ended up a coffee and cookie on my limited budget.

he claimed I had made a horrible impression on him well he made one on me too: he showed that he was impatient and that this would be the way he always was as I am chronically late to things. What’s the rule about being late? I think I wasn’t that late and this guy was truly impatient and I am better off without him.

Lesson Learned: Better to find out your dates flaws early instead of finding out later once you are invested in the relationship and its time to go find new guys to date.

Lessons Learned from Dating

over the past years I’ve been on quite a few dates and I’ve learned quite a few things from these dates and the failed relationships I’ve had. Hope that my lessons can help others out.

FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL MAKE TIME FOR YOU : I learned this one from my past relationship the guy became a workaholic he often choose work over time together, and would answer his phone when we were on a date with no set hours for work. I deserve to have someone that will make us a priority. I mean I’m not demanding all his time I do have my own business but when I’m with him I would like to be his focus.

BEWARE OF THE COUPLE SLUMP: Sure when you’re first dating everything seems perfect, you can’t get together enough and everything seems fresh and new. The guy does everything to impress you and you to impress him. The slump happened once we became a couple, we went from going on out dates to only having dates at my home and I had to pressure him into taking time off work to be together.

THE PERSON YOU MEET ON FIRST DATE MIGHT NOT BE ACCURATE : This one just happened this week, I had a wonderful first part of the date red roses and a nice Italian dinner, then afterward is when things started going downhill. When I asked questions red flags came out and in a text later the guy admitted the persona he gave during the date was a fake one and he was in reality totally opposite of what I was looking for.

ALWAYS PAY ATTENTION TO RED FLAGSIf in conversation during your date or a behavior that doesn’t seem right ask questions or think things over before pushing ahead, often these red flags if ignored could turn into something bigger into the relationship. While other times they are minor enough that the person will change that behavior once being with you or it’s an issue of their past.

TAKE THINGS SLOW DON’T RUSH INTO A RELATIONSHIP: My mistake with my past relationship is that I’ve rushed into things, making lots of dates and getting serious with the guys who show me interest without getting to know the guy better. I’ve learned to take my time and get to know someone before becoming an item.

ONLY INTRODUCE TO FAMILY ONCE YOU KNOW ITS SERIOUS: This happened a few times to me but the more important one was that I introduced my ex to part of my family assuming we were going to be serious enough to introduce to the rest of them later. we broke up a month later right after Christmas. The rest of family never met the guy, I still get teased about my poor judgement in men.

NEVER ASSUME WHAT LEVEL THE RELATIONSHIP IS AT TALK IT OVER BEFORE MAKING ASSUMPTIONS: Just because they are showing interest a lot and affection it doesn’t mean there leading  toward a couple. I learned this the hard way when a guy I was dating showed all the right signs: he was affectionate, he showed interest in what I have to say and more. Yet when I introduced him to my mom thinking we were almost to couple status he pulled away and made excuses claiming that he only wanted a companion not a girlfriend and he was lonely missing affection. I feel like his mislead me by leading me on by showing that kind of attention and acting how he did.

NEVER SETTLE YOU DESERVE BETTER : Don’t settle for someone cause they have part of the qualities you need or you think you can change something about them later. Most times that doesn’t happen and it will drive you apart. You don’t want to be regretting being with the person or have it end soon when you find out your not compatible.

What are some things dating has taught you, share below I would love to heard it.

 

Jobs Review A-

The movie follows the career of Steve Jobs and shows the audience what really happened with his company and how he helped to revolutionize computers.

“The People Who Are Crazy Enough to Change The World, Are The People That Do” ~ STEVE JOBS

Ashton Kutcher does an incredible job as the inspiration of the movie playing Jobs, he portrays him as a genius who while a savvy businessman let himself get drawn in and obsessed with creating the perfect product. He shows his struggles and successes and has you wanting him to be understood . This is a very well picked part that goes away from Kutcher’s normal funny roles and shows that he can handle dramatic roles.

There were a few stand outs of the supporting cast: Josh Gad (Steve Wozniak) and Dermot Mulroney (Mike Markkula). Each of these men played their parts well. Gad’s character was Job’s first partner in apple computers and showed his loyalty and true friendship when he tells Jobs that he is heading on a road to self-destruction, this shows that he cares about Steve as a friend and wants his happiness over the success, plus he did not like the man that his friend had become after the company’s rise to fame.

Markkula is the first man to invest in the company and helped support the company yet when Jobs needed him the most he turned on him and was later let go when Jobs took over, so I guess that’s pay back for what he did earlier. Dermot played this character with conviction and proved himself as a quality actor.

I’m a fan of biography style movies yet while this movie did show his rise to fame with the company there were some gaps about his personal life. There was a nice touch in the end where they showed the actors next to a picture of the men they portrayed. This movie is worth seeing.